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Ep 023: Who Are You When Nobody Needs Anything From You?

 

Ep 023: Who Are You When Nobody Needs Anything From You?

Being needed feels a lot like being loved, until the demands ease off and you’re not sure who’s left.

The house is quiet, everyone’s sorted, and you’re deep-cleaning your makeup brushes. If an unclaimed hour leaves you twitchy instead of relieved, this one’s for you. Melissa looks at why capable women build their identity around being needed, what happens when midlife starts changing the roles, and how to build a sense of self that includes caring for people and also includes you.

In This Episode:

  • Why being indispensable feels so good, and what it costs when the demands drop
  • Contingent self-worth: having to show proof, every day, that you deserve your place
  • When the roles change and you’re not sure who remains
  • The difference between being needed and being wanted
  • How to tell whether you want a new responsibility or just miss feeling indispensable
  • Three ways in: wait out the twitch, practise being on the receiving end, and make a plan with no job attached

Your Prime Power Move:

Choose something this week that’s useful to nobody else. Something you do because you’re curious, interested, delighted, or simply want to. No productivity benefit, no family benefit, no justification required. Then notice what you chose, and how it feels to have chosen it.

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Coming Up Next:

Ep 024 – Stop Waiting for Next Year YOU.

The changes you want keep getting booked in for a future version of you with more time, more courage and better hair. Why she never seems to arrive, and what to do about it.

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DISCLAIMER: The Hello Prime Life podcast is created for informational, educational and entertainment purposes only. I love sharing tools, strategies and unvarnished realities from my own experience and coaching work – but I’m your host, not a licensed therapist or doctor. Nothing here is a substitute for professional, individualised advice.